Defuse Diffuse Rancor and Trouble

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Intro: Powerful Stasis Song in the Middle: I Hate You by The Fadeaways Pizzicato Orchestral Roll 1

Less Common Stories Of Making Peace On and Off Line

Bouncing a shorter format at you with more story to tell and relevance after thinking no recording would get done before the next couple days. Then couldn’t get out of my mind some of the anger and hate I’ve seen online and how it could tie into real life situation where defusing the conflicts are more common but more difficult (though that’s open to debate too I suppose).

We can’t all be saints but we can’t all win by fighting fire with fire. There will naturally be those who are more composed among us and it won’t always be the same people. When they need to know what to do in times of trouble and rancor and hate and venomous tidings, it won’t be easy to play the steady thinker.

Fights bait us into rash and amped up actions and words. It’s always best to at least listen for anyone arguing to switch to personal attacks, then you know the fight is all about the wrong stuff – even if it’s you falling for that trap! I dug around a few resources to bolster my own understanding of what it takes to be the cooler head, the ‘bigger man,’ and take the higher road.

First off, the higher road isn’t always a moral high ground! You can concede to being wrong and while that’s the morally correct thing to do, it is, by definition, the moral low ground. But kudos just the same! This concession, even in small part, is one such piece of advice we stumble onto in some reading.

There’s also a fascinating difference to keep in mind depending on your point of view: Are you a spectator or are you involved in the hate speech or anger or situation? Your proximity dictates different courses of action. I think that’s truly unique advice I found online. I might have guessed it eventually but not put it into words today.

The long term benefits to being the peacemaker are the real gem. Fighting is so often a short-term gain. If your strategy was both self-respect and a longview towards peace, you’d almost be bulletproof. We’ll visit this topic again in the short form I’m sure; it’s constructive and always topical.

LINKS:
Harvard Business Review
QUARTZ
TheAtlantic

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